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    <title>&quot;elders&quot;</title>
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    <published>2010-07-25T15:42:54Z</published>
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    <summary>&quot;elders&quot;</summary>
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        <name>Michael Rosen</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>My son Ripton isn't passionate about books.  To say the least.  Except for Juan, none of our "boys" (now young men), read for pleasure.  They read and write text messages, Facebook posts and emails (seemingly less and less).  They read the ESPN sports website.  </p>

<p>Thom Jones?  John Updike?  Jhumpa Lahiri ?   Nathan Englander?  John Cheever?  Hardly.  </p>

<p>People say it's our Time.  Bookstores go out of business.  Remaining booksellers aren't selling so many books.  Publishers and journals struggle at best, close at worse. </p>

<p>I love to read.  My friend John loves to read.  Some years ago, talking about Ripton growing older, never touching a book that wasn't assigned and only then reluctantly, we decided to build a book club around my teenage son.  Davon, Jon & Evan.  Rabbi Charlie used to come before he moved to Jerusalem.  </p>

<p>Davon is from Jamaica, originally, and I've written about Davon before. He's one of the main gears at WHEDCo.  Jon is from Norway.  He used to lie in the snow and wait for the Russians to rumble over the snow covered mountains. When he was with the Norwegian army. Now he's a daddy and works in new media.  Evan is younger.  He makes watches and other things people consider precious.  John builds companies.  Charlie builds a better world, or tries to. So does Davon. That's a circle.  </p>

<p>No women.  Women read good books, short stories and poetry. Far more than men.  </p>

<p>We decided to build a safe place for Ripton.  What we hoped would be an exciting place. Of ideas and conversation, food and laughter. Clean and ribald.  Male.  A place for us to be together.  </p>

<p>And we are.  We read two short stories before each book club meeting. We talk about the stories during a dinner. We used to meet once a month. Now we meet when Ripton comes home from college.  </p>

<p>It was very hot when we met two weeks ago. We read Jhumpa Lahiri and Isaac Beshevis Singer.  Only Davon and I liked the Singer story. It was about a dybuks and lost worlds. Everyone liked Lahiri. It's easy to like Lahiri.  </p>

<p>This is Jon, on the left, and a visiting friend of his, Paal....<br />
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<p>This is a bad photo of Ripton, and a good one of our food...<br />
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<p>Evan started dipping a napkin into cold water.  Most of us followed. It was very hot. That's Evan in the middle, Ripton to the left, John to the right...<br />
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<p>Davon took the photos, and I'm apparently not photogenic (??), so he and I aren't in these.</p>

<p>Last summer John, Ripton and I went fishing. I thought I'd put in two of those photos here...<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Fishing John &amp; Ripton2.JPG" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Fishing%20John%20%26%20Ripton2.JPG" width="400" height="266" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>In the nuclear family moved far from grandparents, aunts and uncles, in our mobile society, in our inner cities of urban poor, communities of men mentoring the next generations don't have the place of prominence people speak about when I've heard some speak of their "elders."   I'd not quite thought of my friends as "elders" with Ripton, but they do let him into their worlds, share their thoughts and concerns, and it always works. </p>

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<p>Our group feels special.  Yet it's something we can all make in our lives. </p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>The day after, in America - July 5th.</title>
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    <published>2010-07-05T19:57:42Z</published>
    <updated>2010-07-05T20:24:01Z</updated>


    <summary>The day after, in America - July 5th.s</summary>
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        <name>Michael Rosen</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>I know one person who makes a living on the water of the Gulf of Mexico.  </p>

<p>Many tens if not hundreds of thousands do.  And I know people who make their livings in towns and cities there, but only one man who does so out on the water.  Not that being out on the water is a distinction of one sort or another. Disaster is disaster. But when I think of the water, I think of <a href="http://4tarpon.wordpress.com/our-staff-guides/capt-doug-stewart/">Captain Doug Stewart</a>.  Boca Grande. Gasparilla Island. Florida.  </p>

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<p>We met Doug when Ripton was 7 years old, I think.  Something like that. A dozen years ago, more or less.  Doug started to call Ripton "the zen fisherman," because Ripton took to the water and fishing in a preternatural way.  Ripton saw into the water.  He wouldn't stand for anyone keeping fish.  He lived inside the fishing.</p>

<p>I'd sit in the boat and read.  Doug and Ripton fished.  For red drum, snook, sheepshead, sea trout.  Fish and names I've probably forgotten.  </p>

<p>Doug and <a href="http://carolstewart12.point2agent.com/">Carol</a> made their family - two boys who love baseball!  And we stayed in touch but stopped fishing. More or less. Until Ripton wanted to go fishing again.  He was big enough for tarpon, and Doug fishes tarpon with a type of respect that falls into sanctity.</p>

<p>Ripton and I went out with Doug a couple of years ago, then with our friend John Howard last summer...<br />
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<p>The man beside Doug is Richard Volpe, who is filming a documentary history of tarpon fishing around Gasparilla.</p>

<p>I think of Doug on 4th of July's...   Because I know that Doug and his family are the best of what I dream of for America.  Doug and Carol are good church going Christians, and I'm not quite church going or quite Christian.  Doug (and I don't know about Carol) is a pretty seriously dedicated conservative and Republican.  And I'm not quite Republican or quite conservative.  And Doug knows my views on things. And he calls me "Brother," and phones to see how I am from time to time, and cares about my life, and my family, exactly as I care about him, and Carol, and their boys who thankfully love baseball.  </p>

<p>Doug cares pretty much about the same things that I do.  Loving our children.  Making a good home.  Working with those around us who have less to have more.  Helping to protect the earth.  Living in thriving communities.  We come to these concerns from different directions, but we are in the same place.  Which happens with circles.</p>

<p>There's no grandstanding with Doug.  No pontificating anger or animosity in front of a microphone.  </p>

<p>So I think about what America really is each 4th of July.  And I think about Doug.  </p>

<p>And the day after, I wanted to say that. </p>

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    <title>My Father&apos;s Day Video...  enjoy ! Show a Dad in your life...</title>
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    <published>2010-06-16T19:48:58Z</published>
    <updated>2010-06-16T23:20:53Z</updated>


    <summary>My Father&apos;s Day Video...  enjoy ! Show a Dad in your life...</summary>
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<p>This is a snapshot from my video....<br />
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<p>just as technology thing.</p>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>the meaning of Father&apos;s Day - new rituals for a new holiday...</title>
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    <published>2010-06-15T15:36:23Z</published>
    <updated>2010-06-16T01:22:44Z</updated>


    <summary>the meaning of Father&apos;s Day - new rituals for a new holiday...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>When I was a kid, I thought Father's Day was a made up holiday, a greeting card company creation.  <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fathers_day#History">And of course it is, sort of</a>!</p>

<p>But, so what?</p>

<p>As I've gotten older, and became a father, and then became a father to boys (now young men) who didn''t have fathers, I've learned an important meaning to Father's Day... </p>

<p><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Carmelo-Ayala.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Carmelo-Ayala.jpg" width="450" height="338" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>The man on the right is "Papi," Mr. Carmelo Ayala, murdered on Good Friday, March 28, 1997 in the Bronx as one little boy who became my son watched, and his mother and brothers and others watched...</p>

<p>Sometimes the first way we understand what something means is not to have it anymore.</p>

<p>So I think Father's Day,  or least a few hours each Father's Day, should become <big><strong>End Poverty Day</strong></big>.  There has to be a catchier phrase, but End Poverty Day is the essence of what I'm thinking about because so many children growing up in poverty don't have fathers.  Not present, and often not alive.</p>

<p>Holidays have Rituals.  We paint and hunt Easter Eggs, we hang Christmas ornaments and unwrap presents, carve the Thanksgiving Turkey and open the door for Elijah at the Passover Seder (we forgot to open the door this year).  </p>

<p>I'M THINKING ABOUT SOME FATHER'S DAY RITUALS, <br />
A PARTIAL LIST (and please email your suggestions to me):</p>

<p>This Sunday in Summer...</p>

<p>Find a Little League baseball game, or a soccer game [I know I tend to start off with sports, but we did meet our "bigger boys" on a baseball field, and accept Robert Frost's adage that "<a href="http://www.questia.com/googleScholar.qst;jsessionid=MYFRMLLD5yh0vxMC1Gnr1zyQYFphzMJnfJvNWt3sywKKQgl9FTzW!-1371090394!33515697?docId=5009060983">Some baseball is the fate of us all</a>"] or any other kids' program that a <a href="http://www.bgca.org/">Boys & Girls Club</a> is running for kids, or <a href="http://www.whedco.org/home.php">WHEDCo</a> [yes, Davon Russel is my hero]  if you live in the NY area, or a similar organization where you are.  Call the organization before hand, to know where and when to be, and what you can do. And when it's over, if you're touched, do it again...</p>

<p>Go to your local public library, ask the librarian at the front desk about their children's reading series, and let the librarian you want to volunteer.  Then volunteer. And IF they don't have a chidren's reading series,  start one !  And find a library in a disadvantaged area, if you perhaps live on a community of BMWs [we have a BMW, so only self-reflection involved].  Help a poor kid fall in love with books.  </p>

<p>Figure out how you can give a summer job to a kid who needs one....  Whether you can find a way to employ someone, or your spouse, or other loved ones can.  Or perhaps your union, or your boss.  And then do something possibly extraordinary... OFFER that job to a poor kid.  And if you can't create a job, create an internship.  And OFFER that internship to a kid whose life might be transformed forever by the experience you create.  </p>

<p>OR, Sit down with a piece of paper, or your laptop of desktop, and write down ways you might mentor a child.  And after you've finished your list, do one or more of those things.</p>

<p>AND email your list to me.  </p>

<p>rosen@michaelrosenwords.com</p>

<p>So I can learn more, and pass along ideas... </p>

<p>It's not easy to build good rituals for a new holiday.  But our holidays without ritual seem to hover too much.  I think the thought will be worth the effort.  </p>

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<entry>
    <title>Father&apos;s Day &amp; clouds</title>
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    <published>2010-06-07T12:47:58Z</published>
    <updated>2010-06-07T12:57:32Z</updated>


    <summary>Father&apos;s Day &amp; clouds</summary>
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        <name>Michael Rosen</name>
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<p>That's New York last night at sunset.  </p>

<p><big><strong>Father's Day</strong></big> is coming.  Thinking about family, responsibilities, teaching our sons and learning from them.  </p>

<p>I put a lot of good work, with the help of good people, into my <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccHkCBKM7Uo">FATHERHOOD</a> video, on YouTube - which starts with a skyline too. That's my narrative arc, here.  </p>

<p>As a <big><strong>Father's Day</strong></big> gift, Please think of sending this video on to your kids, or your Dad or Mom, or your Friends and Neighbors.  </p>

<p>I'm at JFK, waiting for my flight to Beijing, then Qingdao.  Watching a part of the future. </p>]]>
        
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    <title>A Kindu graduation photo, a pseudo blog post right now...</title>
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    <published>2010-06-04T14:09:21Z</published>
    <updated>2010-06-04T14:12:46Z</updated>


    <summary>A Kindu graduation photo, a pseudo blog post right now...</summary>
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        <name>Michael Rosen</name>
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        <![CDATA[<p>This is a sort-of-blog entry...<br />
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<p>I'm writing an email blast, and want to include this photo of Kindu, his mom Elaine and his younger brother Charles,,, so I have to post it here first.</p>

<p>I'm going to write a Father's Day email blast as well. I hope the people on my blast list don't get upset with 2 June entries... </p>]]>
        
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    <title>A simple story of ending poverty.  Some steps &amp; no mystery...  And Kindu: a few pictures worth all the words.  College Graduation.</title>
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    <published>2010-05-27T19:53:40Z</published>
    <updated>2010-05-27T22:00:30Z</updated>


    <summary>A simple story of ending poverty.  Some steps &amp; no mystery...  And Kindu: a few pictures worth all the words.  College Graduation.</summary>
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<p>Ending poverty - as in, ending the poverty we allow from racism and class discrimination:  <br />
The millions of people in our American underclass -- yes, we have an underclass, and it's growing swiftly -- don't know how to get out of their poverty.  The children their certainly don't.  The irmothers, often  young, often not much more than children themselves, or children themselves, don't know the way out of poverty, for themselves and their daughters and sons.  The fathers,,, there are far too few fathers around, for a range of reasons.  Jail  plays a part.  Going into jail, leaving behind children, fracturing families, on and on. Then eventually dying from jail, from the ins and outs of it. </p>

<p>So once upon a time one mother and one father had three sons...<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Kindu-grad-bros.JPG" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Kindu-grad-bros.JPG" width="400" height="266" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>..and the mother and father both died.  They died from the streets. It's hard on the streets. And the brothers, the older brothers, did everything they knew, when they were really still children themselves, to help the family.  That's what brothers do.  That's love.  That's devotion.  That's loyalty, and from their perspective, learning to be a man.  Before any child should be trying to be a man. But the older brothers wanted everyone in their home to have milk in the refrigerator.  To have bread and tuna fish on the shelves. To have some money for clothes, school supplies. To be able to go to the movies once in a while. To not say "no" all the time.     </p>

<p>But as I said, people in poverty don't know the way out.  If you think they do, then you're looking from far away.  </p>

<p>And looking from far away doesn't help, at all.  It might make you a famous radio or talk show host.  But it doesn't end poverty.  To end poverty, you have to get close. You have to reach in and grab a child's hand, perhaps grab a  handful of hands and start pulling people out.</p>

<p><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Kindu-grad-family.JPG" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Kindu-grad-family.JPG" width="400" height="266" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p><u><strong>IT HELPS TO</strong></u>:</p>

<p>1.  Think about "family" in a new way.  In a broader, fuller, deeper way.  We are family, together. Us people.   Then... </p>

<p>2.  Work with a kid.  Whether <a href="http://www.whedco.org/home.php">WHEDCo</a>, <a href="http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJvH/b.1539751/k.BDB6/Home.htm">Big Brothers Big Sisters</a>, an inner city or another disadvantaged area with a Little League or Soccer club...    Start formally.  Do good things there.</p>

<p>3.  And let a kid into your life.  Let a kid know you are there, on the other end of a phone, in a once or week or three times a week or every day setting, you are there. You're holding hands across the divide and you are NOT going to let go.</p>

<p>4.  Then be there.  Unconditionally there.  Keep holding on.  Because if you let go, that kid will fall.  </p>

<p>5.   Read together.  Then read more. And when you're both tired of reading, when you're all tired of reading, start reading again.  The next day or the next meeting or the next week, read again.</p>

<p>6.  Focus on Education:<br />
         "How are you doing in school?<br />
         "Good."<br />
         "How are your grades?"<br />
         "Good." <br />
                It only took us YEARS to know these conversations were really just talking about the weather, NOT about school.  <br />
                Insist on the importance of graduating high school.  <br />
                Make sure high school gets done!  And if that can't be, make sure a GED is finished.  Which means meetings and tutoring and being there.  <br />
                Being there.<br />
                This isn't lip service, this isn't good intent, this is ending poverty.</p>

<p>7.     College !!    <br />
         Community College?  - Yes, it's perfectly fine and probably often the only way more times than not. But you have to stay on top of things.  College degrees... the traditional difference in earnings between a college graduate and not-a-college graduate have been enough to plant oneself in the middle class. </p>

<p>      or.... a Trade.  Trade School.  A real, true trade, a craft.    Same thing as the above.</p>

<p>      Janet Mills gave me the grace of her time.  She suggested, or at least I understood she suggested, that I think about what we all can do to end poverty.  So I will work on this list.... Things that we all can do, that will end poverty.  Because  a child is too precious to throw away.  If we honestly care about life, it goes farther than from conception to delivery.  Much farther.  </p>

<p>And if we care, it can lead to here...<br />
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<p>That's Kindu and Elaine -  "Saint Elaine," to me.</p>

<p>Kindu graduated college !!!  Farmingdale Stage College.  I have a photo album of graduation photos on my<a href="http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/pages/Michael-Rosen/78838824526?ref=ts"><big><strong> Facebook Fan Page</strong></big></a> for <em>What Else But Home</em>.</p>]]>
        
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    <title>Falling Behind, Catching Up...</title>
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    <published>2010-05-20T00:46:12Z</published>
    <updated>2010-05-20T02:29:09Z</updated>


    <summary>Falling Behind, Catching Up...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>With Leslie's bike accident, I've fallen behind.  I've needed to update my blog re Carlos and baseball, re Kindu and his graduation with a BS this past Sunday from Farmingdale State College !</p>

<p>Leslie is getting better.  Thank you, to all our friends.  She's working with a physical therapist, her post-concussion issues seem to be getting better, and she goes to see the orthopedist tomorrow, to check on her hip/leg surgery, the pins in her femur.  She's staying awake a little longer each night, is more aware.  My parents, Shirley and Howard, spent the last week with us, taking care of things here.  Leslie's parents, Ria and Mike, have been wonderful, as have our sons. Our friends. On and on. So Thank You !</p>

<p>And Gee Gee, thank you for the letter you sent.  </p>

<p>Carlos:  I've not reported enough.  Carlos and I left NY on a Friday.  We drove to Washington, PA, for a Saturday tryout for the Wild Things, in the Frontier League.  The plan was to then continue on to Avon, Ohio, for the larger Frontier League tryouts.  </p>

<p>This is Carlos' home in Queens. He lives on the top floor. That's Carlos, in front of his car. I bought that car years ago, for him. He loves that car. Did I say that he LOVES that car. I don't like cars, the carbon footprint. More about the carbon footprint.<br />
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<p>We stayed in a Comfort Inn near the ball field.  Carlos signed in early:<br />
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<p>We met Todd Marlin, a sweet and good man. Carlos ran and threw and caught. And then he batted. He tried to bat.  His right hand, his power hand, swelled up to a half-hand bigger. He couldn't bat.  We saw no reason to continue on to Avon.  Carlos was crushed.  Clayton Snellgrove, whom we went to see later on (I'm foreshadowing), said Carlos could well have broken a small bone in his hand near the base of his thumb. I'm not sure what that bone is called, but Clayton said batters have broken it and had it removed and played again.</p>

<p>In the batting cage:<br />
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<p>We decided it didn't make sense to go home.  We thought it would make sense to spend time talking about life.  We started to drive to Cleveland, two hours away, and looked up Elon, North Carolina, which was only 500'ish miles away.  So we turned south and started going. We wanted to surprise Ripton on a Saturday night.  </p>

<p>Which we did.  This is Carlos and Ripton, the next morning:<br />
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<p>Ripton wanted to visit his girlfriend in DC, that was only another 400'ish miles away. We drove him north and near Richmond the visit didn't work.  So we had lunch in downtown Richmond, sweet place.  We drove back to Elon.  Six hours later.  That's a carbon footprint, but it's time with my sons.  </p>

<p>Clayton Snellgrove is in Murfreesboro, Tennessee.  Murfreesboro is only 7 hours and 40 minutes, 482 miles from Elon.  Clayton played 4 years with the Padres, making it to AAA ball, then two years with Frontier League teams, where he was the batting champion one year.  </p>

<p>He and his wife Erin were lovely with Carlos and me.  They have a three legged dog, and a beautiful young son named Canton.  Because they met in Ohio.</p>

<p>We drove into the storms and flooding around Nashville.  <br />
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<p>Clayton wrote:  "I now have an amazing story story to tell thanks to you and Carlos.   Driving into the worst flood to hit Middle Tennessee in 100 years, my new FRIENDS included me in their soul searching adventure.  I hope the detour to Murfreesboro was not a waste of time.  I honestly think Carlos is in a good spot...</p>

<p>I have attached the photo Erin took before you left.  Just a note for your notes.  We ate at Miller's Grocery.  It was a county store for 75 years in the little whistle-stop community of Christiana, TN before being turned into the cafe in 1995.  It actually sits about 10 miles south of Murfreesboro, TN.  You didn't see much of Murfreesboro, but it is a nice college town with 2 malls, 2 cinemas, all the chain hotels and restaurants you want.  But as you discovered, in TN you're never far from some down home fun."</p>

<p>Miller's Grocery, a great food place:<br />
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<p>Clayton runs a baseball academy in Murfreesboro, is a writer and the author of <a href="http://www.claysnellgrove.com/index.html"><em>The Ball Player</em></a>.  </p>

<p>A dog ate my lunch while I took that photo outside Miller's Grocery. I put my leftover lunch down on the street to take the photo.  In New York, I know enough not to leave my food out on the street after dark, overnight.  A rat would devour it, a pigeon come and feast. But in Broad Day Light ?  That dog ran right up and off with my chicken fried steak!</p>

<p>Oh yes. Clayton said Carlos should keep in shape, and come spring decide if he wants to try out at least for the Frontier League again. He can come stay with Clayton and Erin for a week, and Clayton will throw him batting practice each morning and afternoon and make Frontier League intros for him at next year's tryouts.  If Carlos wants then. </p>

<p>We drove home. Five nights, 2600 miles more or less.  A huge figure-8 across the eastern part of the country.  A huge carbon footprint. An old fashioned road trip. I drove, we have a manual shift and Carlos doesn't know how to maneuver that car.</p>

<p>And Kindu graduated college !  And Ripton came home for the summer. But I can't write anymore now. But I will later. I have photos.  </p>]]>
        
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    <title>Leslie was in a bike accident...  an update</title>
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    <published>2010-05-07T15:43:22Z</published>
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    <summary>Leslie was in a bike accident...  an update</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>Leslie was in a bike accident this past Tuesday night.  </p>

<p>Thank you to everyone who's called and asked after her health.</p>

<p>Time has blurred, so I think it was Tuesday night.  Since friends ask "What happened?":  Leslie was on Pitt Street, biking home around 9PM or so.  I heard a thud in back of me, sounding like a car accident. Leslie was lying on her right side, unconscious.  She was wearing a helmet.  Two men on the sidewalk pointed to an empty plastic milk carton they said she hit.  She wasn't struck, as far as I can tell, by a car or truck.  </p>

<p>Leslie started to bleed from her head, and after five minutes or so regained a  bit of counsciousness.  Kindu came.  Our friend Nicola was walking by and took our bikes home.  A firetruck  came to 911 calls, and then an ambulance.  The ambulance took us to the Bellevue Hospital trauma unit, which is a wonderful place for acute need if you unfortunately have that need.  Leslie's parents and all our guys came.</p>

<p>Leslie had a brain bleed (I know there's a medical term), a broken hip and they initially thought but ruled out a broken shoulder.  </p>

<p>The next day, after a series of CT scans to make sure the brain had stabilized, the orthopedic team operated on her hip. The fracture was stable, so though the physicians were ready for a hip replacement, they instead stabilized the femur with three screws.  </p>

<p>Leslie was kept in the recovery room for 24+ hours because her trachea had swollen to the intubation - after the first day she was grabbing staff in the recovery room and demanding they take out the intubation tube, writing notes and silently screaming.  One of her notes was telling Kindu to stop visiting and go to his classes - he finishes college this semester. Another was to tell me to go to North Carolina for Ripton, where he needed a parent--I was already there.  Kindu has been a hero throughout.  Leslie's partner and our friend, Shelley Kolton, keeps proving she's a magical care giver.  Mike & Ria are at their best.  All our boys (I know they're young men, but they're still our boys). And friends.  </p>

<p>Leslie was eventually released from the recovery room to a regular patient room in Bellevue.  The medical care seemed great at Bellevue.  The staff was entirely friendly. And as they told me, as typical for a NYC hospital, chronically understaffed. Leslie was left to lie in her own urine for a night and early morning because there weren't enough staff to clean her up and change the bed.  The head nurse said staff called in sick and there were no replacements. The patient advocate lady who came by doing her survey said lying in your own pee at Bellevue is common, and apparently more. And as my friend Rosie Mendez, our local City Councilmember told me yesterday, there are more budget cuts on the way.  </p>

<p>Leslie is now at NYU Hospital, a couple blocks further up 1st Avenue.  </p>

<p>I'm aware there are many others, just down the block, who couldn't move from one hospital to another.  </p>

<p>Leslie is dizzy, in pain.  It seems she'll be "fine," though bike riding seems to be over.  </p>

<p>Recuperation will take time.  Family and friends are visiting.  I'm sorry I'm not responding to everyone who calls, texts or writes.  Feel free to visit.  I'll write another update in a couple days.<br />
  <br />
P.S.:  Friends have been asking... I'll give a Carlos update, but in a bit, after life calms.  </p>

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    <title>Barnes &amp; Noble - is there a sweet move towards Mother&apos;s Day ?</title>
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    <published>2010-04-29T02:50:38Z</published>
    <updated>2010-05-12T00:17:56Z</updated>


    <summary>Barnes &amp; Noble - is there a sweet move towards Mother&apos;s Day ?</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>I don't understand book sales.  And IF you do, please write and let me know how it all works.  It's hard enough to write a book, but after that... ?!  </p>

<p>But two sweet photographs...</p>

<p>My friend Gee Gee Swing sent this photo of the Barnes & Noble storefront...<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Barnes&amp;Noble-GeeGee.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Barnes%26Noble-GeeGee.jpg" width="300" height="400" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>for Mother's Day, from the <a href="http://store-locator.barnesandnoble.com/store/2308">Cherryvale Mall</a>, in Rockford Illinois.   <em>What Else But Home</em> is a lovely Mother's Day gift,,,, and the idea isn't mine.</p>

<p>Okay, so I'm biased.  Gee Gee is a one person <em>What Else But Home</em> hand selling miracle.  And a bird watcher.  </p>

<p>And Daniel Bell (you might remember Daniel from my book), sent me this...<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Barnes&amp;Noble-UnionSq.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Barnes%26Noble-UnionSq.jpg" width="450" height="338" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>Look at the left side of this Lives & Letters table in the front of the <a href="http://store-locator.barnesandnoble.com/store/2675">Union Square</a> store, here in New York.  </p>

<p>My dad and I went over to the store after Daniel sent me the photograph.  My dad was so proud, he said to the guard by the door, "My son wrote that book."   I'm 53. My dad is 77.  I never get tired of the approval.  </p>

<p>Happy pre-Mother's Day !</p>

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    <title>May 1, Pennsylvania - Carlos comes to destiny...  </title>
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    <published>2010-04-24T13:38:07Z</published>
    <updated>2010-05-12T00:19:51Z</updated>


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        <![CDATA[<p>Is that (my title) a touch dramatic?  On May 1, Carlos tries out for the <a href="http://www.washingtonwildthings.com/">Washington Wild Things</a>, in Washington, Pennsylvania.  That's Todd Marlin's team. They're a member of the Frontier League.</p>

<p>And then on to the <a href="http://www.frontierleague.com/">Frontier League</a> tryout, in West Lake, Ohio.  Carlos, if you're reading this,,, TIME to REGISTER!!  Click <a href="http://www.frontierleague.com/tryouts.php">HERE</a>. </p>

<p>This is Morgan...<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Keyspan-at.bat.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Keyspan-at.bat.jpg" width="400" height="266" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>And this is the statue outside the stadium where Morgan's high school team was about to play.  Yesterday, in perfect spring weather.  The afternoon light didn't allow me to take a photo of the front of the statue.  So baseball and Civil Rights folk,,,, what moment in American history is here.... ?<br />
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<p>Keyspan Park, minor league baseball in Coney Island.  Morgan's high school team plays one game in this stadium each season.  Morgan plays center field. He's a team captain.<br />
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<p>High school baseball, sunshine and blue sky, errors and beauty.  Morgan's team won by one run in extra innings.  Determination, misplay, grace.  There's an innocence in these games, focusing in moments to a sublime.  </p>

<p>Dr. Warren Hammerschag looked after Carlos' hand.  Clay Snellgrove and Todd Marlin have been touchstones of help.  Debrah Charatan, John & Lorna Howard - thank you for your support.  Carlos couldn't be headed this way without you. Each of you.</p>

<p>And this is me, doing my pregame warmups....<br />
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    <title>My book has been BANNED ! -  &amp; Carlos &amp; baseball - &amp; me in China</title>
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    <published>2010-04-11T12:58:29Z</published>
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    <summary>My book has been BANNED ! -  &amp; Carlos &amp; baseball - &amp; me in China</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>I am in China.  In Weihai, Shandong Province.  My friend Kit Kung is in partnership with <a href="http://huadongcnc.com/">Weihai Houdong Automation Co, Ltd.</a>, and I'm watching them build the industrial future.  I've not visited China for nearly a decade, and anything about extraordinary, mind-defying progress I could say has been said by so many others. But it is... --  Mr. Tang Xhixian, Chairman, and Mr. Ning Youwei, General Manager, treated me to a banquet tonight, and it was.  </p>

<p>Mr. Tang Shixian:<br />
<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="China - Tang Shixian.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/China%20-%20Tang%20Shixian.jpg" width="123" height="84" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p><big><strong><em>What Else But Home</em> has been banned !</strong></big>  <big><strong>Banned.</strong></big>  A Parent Group in a New York City public school, proud of their school, dedicated to their children and familiar with the story of education my book tells, invited me to a reading there.  They wanted to organize it in the school library, and to involve two other schools sharing the same building. <strong> BUT the principal banned my book. He forbid the reading</strong>. </p>

<p>I write about this school in <em>What Else But Home</em>.  I deeply respected the principal there, who has moved on since our children were young.  That principal and the teachers built an important school, a good place of learning for our neighborhood children.  </p>

<p>And the new principal?  What is the lesson he is teaching our children, and our community?</p>

<p>This is part of the school's mission:  "<a href="http://schools.nyc.gov/SchoolPortals/01/M839/AboutUs/Overview/Our+Mission.htm">Tompkins Square Middle School </a>(TSMS) is a learning community with high academic standards <big><strong>dedicated to fostering ethical, caring, self-reflective, and critical thinkers</strong></big>. Relationships and communication among staff, students, and parents are at the core of our community. TSMS celebrates the diversity of all its members, supports their different learning styles, and <big><strong>encourages them to express their individuality and pursue their interests</strong></big>. <big><strong>Community members are challenged to analyze different points of view and build skills within a meaningful context</strong></big>. " (emphasis added)</p>

<p>Did I say the name of the school? </p>

<p>Sonhando Estwick - did I say the name of the Principal?</p>

<p>So I'm going to reach out to our local press. And to some of our locally elected representatives.  Such as NYC Councilmember Rosie Mendez, who hosted my book reading at the National Arts Club.  And to some of the people in the larger school community, to get an understanding from them about book banning.  And I will read from <em>What Else But Home</em> on the school steps of Tompkins Square Middle School, because I do not believe that books should be banned, nor ideas forbidden. </p>

<p>Carlos update:  Dr. Warren Hammerschlag examined Carlos' hand.  Carlos needs a MRI, but he'll wait for his insurance to become active before getting it. In the meantime, Warren says Carlos can swing a bat, but to tape up his hand.</p>

<p>Clay Snellgrove has arranged for two managers from Frontier League teams to watch Carlos at the May tryout.</p>

<p>And Todd Marlin has arranged the same with his team.  </p>

<p>So Carlos couldn't ask for more, now.  Now is in his and Greater hands.  </p>

<p>Love,   Michael </p>

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    <title>A promise in spring you can keep making...</title>
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    <published>2010-04-06T18:21:57Z</published>
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    <summary>a promise in spring you can keep making...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>This is the best we can be....</p>

<p><span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Morgan-baseball-bfs.jpg" src="http://www.mlrosen.com/blog/Morgan-baseball-bfs.jpg" width="360" height="480" class="mt-image-center" style="text-align: center; display: block; margin: 0 auto 20px;" /></span></p>

<p>Opening day, high school baseball, endless blue sky, comforting warmth after winter, pitchers and batters, fly balls and line drives.  Heroes and errors.  Strike outs, dropped balls and safe slides at home.</p>

<p>That's Morgan at bat, he's captain of his Brooklyn Friends School team, like Ripton was last year.  The game was beautiful.  The promises of youth, life without time.  The field also held a hole for me, like a movie missing an actor.  Ripton has been playing third or first base the past four seasons for Brooklyn Friends.  </p>

<p>Some updates...  Carlos has hurt his right hand at the base of his thumb.  Clay Snellgrove--who played Minor League ball for the Padres for four years, up to Triple A, then played in the Frontier League for two years, including winning the batting title (Carlos is trying out in the Frontier League)--has been speaking with Carlos about getting ready, helping make introductions, consulting on baseball realities.  Clay is now an author (<a href="http://www.claysnellgrove.com/"><em>The Ball Player</em></a>) and runs a Bases Loaded, a baseball and softball school for kids.</p>

<p>Carlos went to <a href="http://www.healthgrades.com/directory_search/physician/profiles/dr-md-reports/dr-warren-hammerschlag-md-f53cd4bf">Dr. Warren Hammerschlag</a>, an old friend, a hand surgeon, an orthopedic specialist - Warren saw  Carlos today through the goodness of his heart.  Warren, THANK YOU !</p>

<p>Carlos' hand hurts. Nothing definitive yet.  He'll tape it up and keep batting.</p>

<p>Tryouts start May 1</p>

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    <title>Carlos, Morgan, Ripton - it&apos;s springtime, it&apos;s baseball, it&apos;s courage and pursuing your deepest dreams...  and May 3 with the Frontier League</title>
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    <published>2010-03-28T18:34:54Z</published>
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    <summary>Carlos, Morgan, Ripton - it&apos;s springtime, it&apos;s baseball, it&apos;s courage and pursuing your deepest dreams...  and May 3 with the Frontier League</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>When warmth returns, when the sun is long and the days hold promises of summer, I sense the possibility and glory of baseball.  The innocence and beauty inside the game.  And yes, the poetry. </p>

<p>Carlos is getting ready.  The Frontier League holds <a href="http://www.frontierleague.com/tryouts.php">TRYOUTS</a> starting May 3 in Avon, Ohio.  Carlos will be there with his friend Jeff.  I might go. I'm hoping to go.   Todd Marlin will be there, too - the Managing Director of the <a href="http://www.frontierleague.com/teams/washington.php">Washington Wild Things</a>.  Todd Marlin has been a gentle blessing to us, giving advice, helping point the way.  Bobby Valentine introduced us.  Others helped.  John Howard starting.  </p>

<p>Today, March 28, is the day Carlos' dad Carmelo Ayala was murdered.  Every March is hard for Carlos. Every March 28 is a place of pain.  If you've read <em>What Else But Home</em>, you know this. Wish Carlos well.  "..."I'm trying to move forward, I'm trying to better my life.  I hope he's proud of me. I'm trying.  It just hurts to know how he's missing out of my life and how much he is going to miss..."  Carlos sent me a text this morning.  Forgive me, Carlos, for sharing a bit of what you wrote.  </p>

<p>Carlos is getting ready.  The Wild Things have a May 1 team tryout, which Carlos can go to on the way to the Frontier League tryout.</p>

<p>Morgan is Captain of his Brooklyn Friends high school baseball team this year, like Ripton was last year. </p>

<p>Carlos, tossing practice batting to Morgan last week in Tompkins Square !! (where my book starts)<br />
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<p>Morgan tossing practice balls to Ripton, who was home visiting on spring break...<br />
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    <summary>Do angels have to have wings?, and what about Verizon?, Mr. Pollick in California</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>...today, this morning, started as rainy.  I biked up to 54th and Park Avenue, for breakfast with my friend Eric Goldberg.  We try to meet each Friday.  He gets a coffee, I get a tea, we each get a muffin.  The woman who sells newspapers standing on the corner tells me about her week. Last Saturday she went to Philadelphia by bus for $10.  Bus companies run special prices sometimes.  They don't advertise, she told me.  She calls the bus company.  She goes there to shop, to save money.  </p>

<p>Eric and I spoke about money today.  He's a real estate lawyer. Real estate has been sort of down for the past few years, sort of a crisis. I think the country's noticed.   I've been an author since September 11.  Which is its own challenge.  Not without emotional and artistic reward, mind you.  And gifts of the soul--the people who email to me, come to my readings.</p>

<p>I told Eric  my own fears - paying the bills as I get older in New York.  There's an honesty and trust in our friendship.</p>

<p>I walked across the street to buy some birthday cards afterwards, promising the newspaper lady I'd buy one when I got back.  I have three friends who have April 1 birthdays.  My Dad is one of them.</p>

<p>When I got back to where my bike was locked, where the lady sells newspaper, paid and put away my <em>El Diario</em> (for Morgan to practice Spanish) a man walked by with a coffee in his hand, heading towards this cab...<br />
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<p>"Let me buy you a coffee," he said, smiling.  "You work hard."</p>

<p>"No, no, you don't have to buy me a coffee," I answered.  Shy. Awkward.  </p>

<p>"Money doesn't matter," he looked at me, smiling more. His eyes were black.  </p>

<p>I looked more closely.  He was my age.  Heavier set.  A slight gray beard.  A joyous voice.  </p>

<p>"We are born to love, that makes us human."  He kept smiling.  "People with a lot of money, people trying to protect their money, that makes people do bad things to other people.  Let me buy you a coffee."</p>

<p>"I can't have a coffee, I'm getting on my bike.  Can I take your picture?" I asked.</p>

<p>"We come into this world naked, and we go out naked.  Remember that," he said.</p>

<p>"Can I take your picture?"</p>

<p>"If you let me buy you a muffin."</p>

<p>"Okay," I answered, and watched him walk to the breakfast cart catty-corner to the woman selling newspaper. The skeptic in me kept watching. The man did reach into his pocket, took out his wallet, handed over money for a muffin and walked back to me.  He gave me his gift, got into his cab, and this is him...<br />
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<p>"Money means nothing," he smiled.  </p>

<p>We shook hands. We shook hands again.  "Remember, we come into this life naked, we go out naked.  Love is the only thing that matters, that makes us happy. That's why we're human."  And we shook hands again.  </p>

<p>Do angels have to have wings?</p>

<p>I biked down to Grand Central Station, to <a href="http://www.posmanbooks.com/site/">Posman Books</a>.  I wanted to find poetry by <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Wayward-Girls-Issues-Poetry-Prose/dp/1930974493/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1269657311&sr=8-1">Kevin Boyle</a>.  I looked up as I walked into the rotunda.   Of course I looked up.  This is what I saw...<br />
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<p>A photograph doesn't due justice to the sense of heaven in that sky.  Of heaven, yes.  And angels. </p>

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<p>& a story, & a question:</p>

<p>when I decided to write <em>What Else But Home</em>, I sold a house I'd built and invested with a friend in Palm Springs, California.  He'd moved there for the sun, and to renovate houses.  We agreed that he'd buy and renovate a house with the money I'd provide, and we'd split the profit--if there was profit.  </p>

<p>He demolished the interior, then died.  Suddenly He was 49 years old. </p>

<p>He was a good man, and after his death I learned that a lot of things had gone wrong.  I called on a friend to help, a contractor far from Palm Springs, but who had some time and I trusted.  He did help, and more things went wrong.  A broker I'd come to trust in Palm Springs, a fantastic man named <a href="http://www.realestatebydan.com/about_me.asp">Dan Thompson</a>, suggested a local contractor he'd worked with and trusted.  I hired that man, whom I believe tried at first to do a good job, then went bad as the economy hardened.  He stole a great deal of money. And Dan says from a few people.  That man cut corners.  He did half jobs and most poorly.  The first rains this year flooded the house--in the desert?  Because the driveway the contractor poured sloped towards the back door!  The bathroom in the master bedroom was connected only to a box in the rear yard--the sewerage pipe hadn't been connected to the street!  On and on.</p>

<p>And, when driveway work first started, a Verizon phone line was apparently cut.  Verizon sent a penalty letter, demanding approximately $3500.  I'd already paid the contractor for the driveway work. He said, as I pressed, that he'd take care of the Verizon fine. And then he told me it was solved.  I didn't receive any more letters.</p>

<p>Only months later, did Dan and I  realize that the contractor had turned dishonest.</p>

<p>I was recently contacted by a nice lawyer in California.    Mark Pollick.  He sent this letter:<br />
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<p>I called Mr. Pollick yesterday, and explained my understanding of things. We discussed <em>What Else But Home</em>.  I told him the story of trying to finish the Palm Springs house.  I told him that the last contractor had always told me that the Verizon line wasn't where it was supposed to be--that's why it was cut.  Mr. Pollick told me it didn't matter.  I offered to pay 50% of the bill, figuring that I'd already paid the whole price once, to the contractor.  Mr. Pollick said Verizon wouldn't accept that offer.  I offered to pay 60% of the bill - certain that Verizon's cost couldn't be more than 50%.  Mr. Pollick said Verizon wanted 85% of the bill, but he'd call me back after seeing what might be done. He did call today.  He told me Verizon would accept $2500, which is roughly 75% of the bill.  He's a nice man.</p>

<p>I don't know what's right - 50% seems fair to me, which means I'll be paying 150% of the cost, and Verizon will get its expenses paid, guessing that they are half of what Verizon billed.</p>

<p>What do you think?  Write to me, let me know.  Please.  </p>

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